Are You Tired Of Worrying That You’re Not Good Enough?
Do you live in constant fear of failure? Does it seem like you’re never good enough, no matter what you do? Maybe you know you have impossibly high standards, but you don’t know how to shake them. You feel frustrated with yourself whenever you can’t do things perfectly. You try and try to do more and be more, but all your hard work leaves you just as anxious and uncertain as before.
Perhaps your life looks great on the outside and many people think you have it all together. But inwardly you find yourself asking: Am I a bad parent? Am I a bad employee? Am I a bad student? You may have a habit of endlessly comparing yourself to people who seem better than you. While this drives you to try harder, it probably makes it difficult to relax and enjoy life. When you do relax, you may feel guilty—as if you’re wasting time and you always have to be productive.
With Anxiety, It’s Hard To Feel Seen And Loved For Who You Are
In addition to constant worry, anxiety can cause sleep troubles, lack of appetite, muscular tension, and difficulty concentrating. You may struggle with self-doubt and constantly ask friends and family for reassurance about yourself. But no matter how many times people tell you that they love and accept you, you feel like you can never be sure of their approval.
Deep down, you probably wish that you could be seen and loved for who you are without having to achieve perfection. If this is the case, we encourage you to pursue counseling with us. Anxiety treatment is a chance to learn new skills for overcoming stress and bring more self-compassion into your life.
Anxiety Has Spiraled Out Of Control In Our Culture Today
Everyone struggles with anxiety at some point in life. A little anxiety isn’t a bad thing—without it, we wouldn’t be as motivated to achieve our goals. Our uncertainty about the future drives us to accomplish more and prepare ourselves for stressful times.
For many people today, however, anxiety isn’t just a normal part of life, but an all-consuming problem. The fear of “I’m not good enough” pervades every aspect of their lives. In many ways, social media has amplified their anxiety. It gives them a false perception of people’s lives, flooding them with images of beautiful, happy, smiling people who are fit, healthy, and coupled up. When they look at their own lives in comparison, they can only wonder: How do I measure up?
Working Harder Does Not Make Anxiety Disappear
The problem with anxiety is that it drives people to work harder without actually addressing the root of their problems. For them, being “good enough” often means doing everything by themselves rather than asking for help. As a result, they end up overworking themselves and neglecting their health and well-being. Because they go and go and go, they never make time to sit with their anxiety to try and understand it.
If you are known as a problem-solver by nature, being unable to solve your anxiety is especially frustrating. After all, you probably feel like you should be able to “fix” your anxiety on your own. The fact that you aren’t able to may make you feel ashamed.
In counseling, we want to help you overcome feelings of shame and recognize that it’s okay not to have it all figured out. This is a time to unwind, release your emotions, and explore your anxiety freely and without fear of judgment.
Anxiety Treatment Can Help You Let Go Of Perfectionism And Appreciate Yourself As You Are
At the moment, you may feel that you’ve done everything you can to fight your anxiety. You may have tried to ignore it by busying yourself with other things—but each time, your anxiety symptoms come back with a vengeance. This is because avoiding what makes you anxious actually makes your stress worse. To truly manage your anxiety, you have to get to know your anxiety—to learn about where it comes from and how it’s affecting your life.
In therapy, we will explore the root of your stress and come up with skills for tolerating it. That said, anxiety treatment is not a time to overwork yourself. It is a chance to relax, wind down, and drop all pretenses. Here, there is no pressure to “do more” and “be more.” You can learn to appreciate yourself just as you are, letting go of your need for perfection. Our hope is that you will learn self-compassion and give yourself the time you need to rest and rejuvenate.
What To Expect In Sessions
Oftentimes, anxiety stands in the way of your ability to get in touch with yourself and know what is truly important to you. This is because anxiety trains your brain to act out of fear rather than desire. For instance, when you’re around other people, you may find yourself making choices based on what pleases others instead of what makes you happy. You may not even know what makes you happy because you’re so used to neglecting your needs.
Anxiety therapy is a time to explore yourself on a deeper level and figure out what values are important to you. Doing so can help you set healthier boundaries and establish clearer priorities. Instead of over-scheduling activities and overworking yourself, you will learn to step back and spend time on the things that are most important to you—being in nature, spending time with friends and family, etc. When your values and actions are in alignment, you can live a richer and more meaningful life.
Tailoring Your Treatment Plan
One of the best ways to understand yourself better is through mindfulness. At its core, mindfulness is all about slowing down and asking yourself: where do you want to direct your energy? What thoughts and beliefs do you want to hold onto and which ones do you want to discard? The goal of mindfulness is to increase your awareness of what you think and feel so that you can act based on your values instead of out of fear.
With our help and support, we are confident that you can overcome negative thought patterns and enjoy deeper connections with family and friends. We hope that you will spend less time worrying and more time with the people and things that give your life meaning and joy. Most importantly, we want you to realize that you are enough—you don’t have to be perfect to be loved.
You May Have Some Concerns About Anxiety Treatment…
I’m worried that anxiety counseling will cost too much.
Finances are important and we’ll never push you to do something you’re not sure about. That said, how much would you be willing to pay to get control of your anxiety and live the life you’ve always dreamed of? The skills you learn here can last a lifetime. Besides, anxiety treatment does not have to be long-term—whether you come for a month or a year, the important thing is that you learn to manage anxiety and connect to yourself more deeply.
I don’t think I have the time for therapy.
We make it easy to schedule with us. You can choose either telehealth or in-person counseling and we have sessions available later in the evening if you can’t make time during the day. What’s more, as pressed as you may be for time, self-care is essential to your mental health. Just as you would make time for a doctor if you had a physical ailment, we encourage you to prioritize your emotional wellbeing.
How do I know that anxiety treatment will work?
You can’t tell for sure if therapy will work, but then again, your situation isn’t going to resolve itself on its own. If you don’t see an anxiety counselor, it’s unlikely that anything will change. But if you do, you’re giving yourself a chance to thrive and grow and make lasting changes to your life.
Let Us Help You Feel Content In Who You Are
If you’re tired of wondering whether you’re good enough and trying to measure up to other people, we would be honored to help you find satisfaction in who you are. To begin the healing process, you can call our office manager or book an appointment through our online scheduling portal.