Helping Your Child Cope with School Anxiety: A Guide for Parents

As a parent, it’s natural to feel concerned when your child shows signs of anxiety, especially when it’s related to going to school. School is a place where kids learn, grow, and develop social skills, but it can also be a source of stress and worry. Whether it’s fear of separation, academic pressure, or social challenges, school anxiety is common. The good news is, with the right support and strategies, children can manage their fears and thrive in the school environment.

Here are some practical steps to help your child navigate school anxiety:

1. Acknowledge Their Feelings

The first and most important step is to listen to your child and validate their emotions. Let them know it’s okay to feel anxious. Statements like, “I can see that school is making you feel nervous, and that’s understandable,” help them feel heard and reassured. Avoid dismissing their concerns, as this can make the anxiety feel bigger to them.

2. Encourage Open Communication

Create an open environment where your child feels comfortable talking about their worries. Ask questions like, “What part of school is making you feel worried?” or “Can you tell me what’s on your mind?” Understanding the root cause of the anxiety—whether it’s about making friends, handling homework, or navigating the school day—will help you find the right approach to address it.

3. Prepare and Plan Ahead

Anxiety often comes from fear of the unknown. Help your child feel more in control by preparing for the school day ahead of time. This can include organizing their school supplies the night before, discussing what their schedule will look like, or even making a visual schedule for younger children. Familiarity can ease their worries.

4. Create a Calm Morning Routine

Rushed and chaotic mornings can increase stress for both parents and children. Establish a calm and predictable morning routine to reduce anxiety. Make time for a healthy breakfast, a few minutes of relaxation or play, and allow enough time to get ready without feeling rushed. This helps set a positive tone for the day.

5. Problem-Solve Together

Once you understand the specific anxiety triggers, work with your child to come up with solutions. If they’re anxious about making friends, role-play different social situations to build confidence. If homework is overwhelming, break it down into smaller, manageable tasks. Involving your child in problem-solving helps them feel more empowered to handle their concerns.

6. Promote Positive Self-Talk

Children with anxiety often have negative thoughts about themselves or situations (“I’m not good at this,” “No one will talk to me”). Encourage them to replace these thoughts with more positive and realistic ones, such as, “I can do this,” or “I’ll try my best, and that’s enough.” Remind them that it’s okay to make mistakes, and learning is a process.

8. Work with Teachers and School Staff

If your child’s anxiety is affecting their school performance or attendance, it’s essential to communicate with their teacher, school counselor, or other staff members. They can provide additional support during the school day and keep an eye on your child’s well-being. Many schools offer resources like social skills groups, counseling, or anxiety management programs that can help.

When to Seek Professional Help

If your child’s anxiety becomes overwhelming or persists despite your efforts, it may be time to consult a mental health professional. A therapist can help your child learn additional coping skills, identify underlying issues, and work through their fears in a supportive environment. Anxiety is treatable, and with early intervention, your child can build resilience and confidence. If you would like to consult with one of our providers at LifeCatalyst, please call or schedule an appointment online.